When my husband and I first started our adoption process, these children were referred to as Special Needs which can be a scary term.
But what if instead we called them "Waiting Children"? Doesn't sound as intimidating, right, and it is the truth as well! Furthermore, what if we thought of "Special Needs" kids as "special", amazing children in "need" of or waiting for a forever family? What if God had said, "oh, I don't want to save people with problems, only perfect people"? None of us are worthy of Him. We are all special cases in comparison to our great God. Praise God, that He, in His mercy, sent his only and perfect Son to die for all of us (John 3:16)!
When our caseworker mentioned this list as a possibility to us, we looked at each and said, "we don't think so", but God had other plans. He began to work in our hearts and brought people into our lives who had adopted children from China on the waiting child list and showed us that He had a completely different plan than we were thinking of for our adopted child. He showed us that we didn't need be scared of this special list of children but rather to see them as beautiful children created by their creator, perfect in His eyes, and waiting for us to adopt them! The truth of the matter is that many children on this list in China have things that can easily corrected in the United States such as cleft lip/palate or limb deformities. Of course, there are children on these lists with more severe issues, so pray about God's plan for your adoption and seek His will alone. Don't focus on the fact that you want a "healthy" child but rather on the child God has for you. Step out in faith, knowing that His plan is far greater than any you could ever imagine. Yes, there will rapids along the way, but He has promised to carry you through those times of trial and difficulty that are inevitable. He will be faithful. WE CAN TRUST HIM!! "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understand. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight." (Prov. 3:5-6)
Meet Grace Lihua
|At the Hong Kong airport on our way home from China|
|Grace, age 4|
Meet Anthony Jianyou
|This photo was taken about 10 months before our adoption.|
|Anthony, age 9|
My Children are BEAUTIFUL! See my post about this here.
"Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight." (I Peter 3:3-4, NIV)
To quote Johnny Diaz, "More Beautiful You",
"There could never be a more beautiful you
Don't buy the lies, disguises and hoops, they make you jump through
You were made to fill a purpose that only you could do
So there could never be a more beautiful you."
Interested in learning more about waiting children in China or elsewhere? Check out the following websites:
Gladney Center for Adoption Asia Waiting Child Program
Superkids Charity Blog
Love without Boundaries
No Hands But Ours
Half the Sky
Bethel China Foundation
An Orphan's Wish
New Day Foster Home
We are Grafted In
National Council for Adoption