Wednesday, February 27, 2013
Weekly Wednesday Word - LOVE!
Love. . . what does it look like in adoption? Let's talk honestly about this.
I have been thinking about our love for Anthony and Grace and how it shifts, changes and grows with time. It is different from carrying a baby in your belly for nine months. Our "nine months" consisted of pictures and information and supernatural love from God, but we are not truly connecting and attaching to our child during that period. All that comes later as we uncover personality, develop trust and understanding, then our love can grow and expand. It is really interesting to sit back and think about how it felt when I first laid eyes my children versus how I feel now when I look at them. God gave us a love beyond explanation from the moment we knew these children were ours, but there is so much further to go with our love for them. As we spend time with them and watch them grow and develop so does our love for them. From the beginning, I had the instinct to protect and care for them, but I wouldn't say I loved them with the same fierceness I hear new moms express for their newborn babies. I know it is OK for me to feel this way because I did not carry them within me. And it is OK for them to not immediately love, trust or turn to me. There is a period of attachment that must occur, a time of where trust and love develop and grow. It can be difficult at times when all you want is to hold your child and love on them but they aren't ready yet, but what is exciting is to see that growth and change in all our lives as we become a family.
As I think of all this I am so thankful that our Father loved us before the foundation of the world, and so much, in fact, that He sent His only Son to die in our place for our sins so that we could spend eternity with Him. Now THAT is LOVE!
"This is love: not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins." (I John 4:10, NIV)
"But God demonstrates His own love for us in this: while we were still sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5:8, NIV)
"For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angel nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord." (Romans 8:38-39, NIV)